The Only Voice That Matters
“Intuition is the whisper of the soul.” — J. Krishnamurti
I spend a lot of my time thinking about how to be positive in the present and to plan for success in the future. Conversely, I also spend time in thought on my vices — negatives that hold me back from being the best version of myself. Those voices can come (worst of all) from the voice inside our heads. When they do, it’s important that we reject them and think positively.
But the purpose of this piece is to target the “haters” that live to rob us of our joy. It’s remarkable how many people end up faltering or squandering time because they’re not vulnerable enough to trust their own voice, so instead they implicitly trust the negative voices of others.
I think about envy, which is the emotion of coveting another’s advantages or successes. Another form of envy is an overly self-conscious concern of what others think of us. Our worry of comparing ourselves to others- and trying to measure up to the skills and success of people in our environment- can be extraordinarily detrimental.
Envy can produce anger and, vice versa, when we get upset or perturbed by words said to us from a work supervisor, friend or classmate. Envy is the long road to ruin. We start on the path to envy when we abandon our self- control, moral good and altruism for jealousy and worse- a wish for the demise of others.
Once we are confident that we’re exercising self-control and discipline, we need to be on guard for those individuals or thoughts that aim to harm us. It’s easy to suggest that we should pay them no mind or ignore them completely, but unfortunately, life is not always that kind. Sometimes we have to deal with negative people (haters) or encroaching, tempting thoughts directly.
The Way to Silence The Haters
“Knowing yourself is to be rooted in being, instead of lost in your mind.” — Eckhart Tolle
The way to silence the haters or even the devil on your left shoulder is by properly analyzing your current situation with a clear mind. Assess all the positives and negatives. Don’t allow dishonest and self-deprecating thoughts from others to invade your mind. If the door is open, and they enter, make sure you kick ’em out and slam it shut with full force.
Reject them with an overwhelming belief that you are not buying what the negative voice is saying. This takes practice and self-coaching. It takes the power of auto-suggestion, when you allow yourself to speak to your subconscious mind with effort and persistence.
You will shun the negative voices through the power of your self-confidence, boosting your self-esteem and programming your mind to visualize your rebuttal. You must actually see yourself refusing to give in to negativity.
There is a major need to expunge any anger or frustration from our systems when we feel ourselves falling into negative thinking. The right way to do this is in a healthy, controlled environment, without adversely affecting people around you. Give yourself some time to vent, breathe out the negatives and then- suck it up! Keep a positive attitude.
The need to clear our mind is imperative for moving forward. Hold your head high and block out negative emotions by doing things that can drive change and improve your situation all around. As I’ve previously stated, smart, organized planning, highlighting goals and immersing yourself in an environment conducive to inspiration will help.
We all need allies and people to talk to who care about us and are willing to listen.
Build Your Self-Awareness
Be self-aware enough to refuse to give in to temptations and crutches that will only extend your unhappiness. Believe and will yourself back by your faith in knowing that you cannot do it all on your own. Turn anger on its head and use it to your advantage to fuel your negative moments by transforming them into your biggest comebacks.
I can assure that feeling sorry for yourself is a poor way to live. Self-pity is a dangerous space to dwell in, because it can perpetuate itself, and make you feel like the victim. Self-pity makes us look at all of our situations through a lens of bias, influencing us to accuse others, when we have no logical reason to assign blame to anyone else.
Sometimes, things in life that we experience don’t work out and there’s a reason for it: We are meant for something bigger and bolder. It’s extremely difficult to make sense of at the time, but it’s as sure as the sun’s rise in the east with each new day.
Commitment is what transforms a promise into reality — Abraham Lincoln
As the great Steve Jobs once said, “We cannot connect the dots going forward. We can only connect them looking back.” It’s hard to believe at the time but our greatest moments are often just ahead of us if we’re willing to commit, believe and persevere! In the meantime, tell the haters that try to bring you down- to shove it. You’re bold enough to do it.