The #1 factor that holds people back is fear. Fear stops you before you even begin to discover your true potential and it makes you self-conscious and doubtful. The truth is, the best advice we can heed sometimes is to mind our own business and focus on making ourselves the best we can — for us.
20 years ago, a hilarious experiment was conducted by a psychologist that serves as a microcosm for the way we see ourselves in the world. In fact, it’s also a reflection for the way we perceive society to see us. Psychologist Thomas Gilovich decided…
We, the people of the world, are living in a results-driven culture. We see it in the workplace. We’re reminded of it on television. It’s plastered all over billboards and social media. ‘If you achieve something — anything — then that will come to define you. And those results, are all that really matters,’ they tell us. You and I both know that’s a bunch of rubbish.
We’re fed a Be — Do — Have system of thinking. It all culminates in a bottom-line approach. “Show me the money.” “What have you done for me lately?” In reality, this obsession…
10 years ago, I found myself on a professional track I knew in my heart could never yield the satisfaction I desired. I felt like I had everything I wanted professionally — at least to the outsider observer. But inside, I knew I was empty. Maybe you know the feeling.
It took time. But eventually, I was ready to do something about it.
I sat down at my dining room table and started to write a very basic list of the things I knew I wanted to do. …
Instinctively, we always seek to gain control. We may not think of it as such, but ask yourself this question: what does it feel like to not have influence or control over a situation? It’s an uncomfortable feeling. It makes us feel helpless.
The more I’ve evaluated my conduct and thought impulses in relationships over the years, the more I’ve come to understand how much I crave control. It’s human and natural. But there are consequences. When we live with the results of a mindset conditioned toward control, it ends up backfiring on us.
“Success in dealing with people depends…
You know that stare? You’re entranced and stuck in the moment.
You only realize it in hindsight.
When you find yourself gazing out the window, or at the small corner of the wall, or up at the ceiling. You’re so fixated on that one space as if it were reeling you in, looking to talk to you, or maybe even advise you. Once your consciousness comes back, you realize that you were lost in a moment. An imaginative glimmer in time.
Something has preoccupied you. Perhaps good, perhaps bad. But it’s preventing you from taking action.
Whatever past idea, struggle…
Six days ago, the Milwaukee Bucks won their first NBA title in 50 years. On the strength of a god-like effort from their extraordinarily talented, Greek star, Giannis Antetokounmpo, the Bucks reached the summit of the basketball world. But this post isn’t about basketball.
It’s about what mindfulness and emotional intelligence are all about.
What this two-time MVP and now world champion has learned about the mental and emotional side of the game of basketball is most important to you and me as we journey through our own path in life. …
Embracing your true self.
Becoming the person you’ve always wanted to be.
Literally being yourself- the person and career woman or man that you most want to be.
What does that look like?
For many of us, the biggest piece of the puzzle is always getting to the knowing. As we continue to search for deeper meaning, we feel the desire to make a declaration. “I am…”
When we see one of our peers excelling, the first thing that comes to our mind is usually: How did they do that? The best of us admire their accomplishments, but we also crave to get insights into how they did it. We want to know if we can blaze that same trail, and even get their quicker.
Through my years of academic research, working in business and coaching high-achievers, I’ve found that in virtually all circumstances emotional intelligence is the key differentiator for success. Here is some research to back that point up:
It’s easy to get down. It’s easy to feel small. It’s easy to feel like your goal or your success is so far away when you haven’t yet completed “your masterpiece” or lived out the big plans you have for yourself. The path of least resistance is ALWAYS easy.
It’s when the going gets tough, when your day is so busy with work, family obligations, personal ambitions and B.S., that the picture somehow — some crazy way — gets clearer.
Maybe you know what I mean.
Let’s face it, you have a super busy life. Heck, you might be reading…
It’s the early part of the year and you have a million things on your mind. For most of us, we’re far too anxious about little things that aren’t urgent and could easily wait for another day.
Little, insignificant worries and problems can accumulate and catch up to us, and before we know it, we’re consumed with big worries and problems. It’s better to face these things with a clear mind and an intelligent approach to knock them out.
It’s also not a bad time to ask, how are your big goals and resolutions for 2021 working out for you…